I got my first real hate mail, and there was a lot of it.

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Yesterday, I wrote a post about our personal beliefs and convictions regarding Disney’s LGBT agenda. I had no idea that it would go further than the small numbers than I normally receive. But it did. And I’m completely shocked.

With tear filled eyes and a broken heart I read through the nearly 350 Facebook comments, messages, and emails from people who don’t agree with me. They cursed me, called me terrible things, and even said things about my children.

Yet the same people who called me a bigot, hateful, and intolerant, are now making crude comments about my family and I based upon a single post they read and interpreted to be hate filled.

I leaned to my husband tonight and said ‘If I had known that it would be made out to this, I would have never posted. Not that I am ashamed for my beliefs, but more that they’re being construed into something they’re not.’

Fun fact: for those of you who think I made money off of that post yesterday, I have yet to make a single red cent.

It stung a little every time someone directed a nasty comment towards me personally. It was like a dagger to the heart when people addressed my children. Each time that my words were construed into something they weren’t meant to be, it was like they dug in a little deeper. I was mocked, I was persecuted, and I was held to an unimaginable standard.

I guess I shouldn’t have expected anything different since they did the same thing to Jesus, and I’m not even worthy of being compared to the dust on His shoes.

If you knew my story, I’m no Saint. I’ve committed my fair share of sins. It’s been only by the blood of Jesus that I can ask for remission of sins and, with a daily communion with Him, I can flee from the temptation of the flesh. The Bible says all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God, I too have fallen short.

I am human. I make mistakes. I am not perfect. I am no better human than you no matter what the situation be.

LGBT people are humans. I don’t think they are bad people. I don’t shun LGBT people. I don’t fear them. I believe that all humans should be treated equally, and with respect. But I have a right to stay true to my religious beliefs as well.

Titus 3:9 Avoid foolish questions, and genealogies, and contentions, and strivings about the law; for they are unprofitable and vain.

There are 3 types of laws in the Bible. Civil Laws, which governed the nation of Israel, not only behaviors, but also punishments for crimes. There were Ceremonial Laws about “clean” and “unclean” things, about sacrifices, and other temple practices. And then there were the Moral Laws, which declared what God deems right and wrong—the 10 Commandments, for instance. When Christ came to die for the sins of the word, he fulfilled the law. “But now we are delivered from the law, that being dead wherin we were held, that we should serve in newness of sprtit and not in the oldness of letter.” Romans 1:6 Hebrews 8 says that Jesus was the mediator of a better covenant, established on better promises. Hebrews 9 says that He is that mediator for a new testament, His death became that atonement for the old.


Being gay wasn’t the only thing I mentioned in the post, but it seems to be the only thing I’m receiving backlash over. I also spoke against foul language, sex before marriage, abortion, violence. But it seems that even though I covered a variety of topics, I’m still only picking and choosing Biblical standards that fit my lifestyle.

A few of the ‘nicer’ comments:

  • “Hope your kids don’t grow up to be like the two of you.”
  • “PIG!”
  • “You do know it’s “Christians” like you who are guilty for the young LGBTQ kids who commit suicide, right?”
  • “Hopefully there will be enough positive forces in these children’s lives to counteract the bigotry being forced upon them at such a young age.”

These are nothing compared to the internet trolls who commented on other personal Facebook posts continuously. These are nothing compared to the ones who used foul language when describing me. Nothing compared to the nasty remarks about my children.

It wasn’t my plan to stir strife. So if the context of my words were misleading and I made you feel condemned or less of a person, I’m truly sorry.

Never in my adult life have I hated a person, and that doesn’t start today (or yesterday for that matter). No matter your preference of life, I believe in kindness, compassion, and brotherly love. I believe that everyone has a chance at happiness, but I also believe that happiness and fulfillment are found in Christ.

I cannot apologize for my Bible based convictions.

I love my children, but I also correct them. Christ said ‘I chastise those whom I love’  Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine.” 2 Timothy 4:2

It seems as though agreeing to disagree is a sign of weakness. Whether we agree or not in the end, we are all people, we all have opinions, no matter what those opinions be. Despite my beliefs, I never damned anyone to hell. Despite my convictions, I believe that ALL people should be loved. But that doesn’t mean that all ways should be accepted. Know that my words weren’t meant to be taken with an angry tone. I’m not angry with anyone.

I hope that you don’t continue to judge me based upon how you read my words.

Maybe I’m just digging myself a deeper hole for you guys to throw me into. But hopefully, you see that there’s a real person with feelings behind this screen. Hopefully you know that your words hurt. Hopefully you’ll see me in a different light.

If you’re new around here, I encourage you to click around a bit and find out who I really am. Not just make an assumption based upon one facet of my beliefs. Know that I’ve fed the hungry, I’ve clothed the poor, and I’ve served the needy, with no questions as to whether these people were straight or not. Because as a Christian, I am both called to love and called to stand.


  1. Elizabeth says:

    You did not deserve those hateful comments but you should also know that when you post your beliefs, especially those that are against such a large community that is rapidly growing, just remember that people will get angry. They will express that anger and tear you apart. Yes, you have every right to express your opinion but just know the negative comments comes with the territory. It is being naive to think that people aren’t going to be offended. They will in fact, be downright petty with some of their comments. If you ever post your opinion on such matters again you must prepare yourself for some not so nice remarks.

  2. John Q. Public says:

    Hi Modest Mom,
    Your doing well by standing up to those bullies and those that persecute you for your faith. Your correct on loving your enemy, love those that hate you. Many seem to forget when they say “G-d is a G-d of love. But they leave out he’s also a G-d of Justice. I’m not hating on those in the LBGTQ community either but like you, I don’t support their lifestyle nor will I support organization that say it should be taught in schools. But that neither here or there. This about not supporting a bussiness that promotes a life style that’s not biblical. You’re standing in the shadow of almighty G-d and he’ll cover you with his wings..I’m sure you’ve read psalms 91 and keep a our armour ephesians 6

  3. Denise Rynes says:

    I’m sorry that you received such a negative reaction to your Disney World post. I do not feel the same way you do about Disney or the LGBTQ movement, but parents have a right to decide what they feel is best for their children. I hope you find another place where you feel comfortable to vacation. The most important element of the family vacation is spending time together in an enjoyable way; it doesn’t matter where that happens.

    Take care, and safe travels, wherever you may go.

  4. I’m sorry for the messages you received! That was uncalled for. I may not fully understand why you chose to cancel your trip, but that’s not grounds to harass you, or to comment on your children. I didn’t send you anything like that, but I’d like to apologize for them.

  5. Truly, I’m sorry that people have been hateful to you. I am gay. I am Christian. I believe in the goodness that Jesus taught. I won’t get into any discussion of our differences. You are right, we should be able to respectfully disagree. And, while I disagree with you, you are free to raise your children to be good people and to live your life as you see fit according to your interpretation of the teachings. It is very sad that so many “Christians” respond with vitriol and hate to those who are different. I hope you will find your way past the current hurt. Peace and be well.

  6. “Called to love and called to stand” <——– yes!

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