I usually don’t talk about politics here, but I can’t seem to stay away from the big issue that’s out there.
I signed the pledge to Boycott Target.
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Before you start bashing and ranting and raging, please don’t forget to keep reading.
Firstly, let me say that I don’t discriminate against, or bash people, who choose to live an LGBT lifestyle. I simply disagree with that choice.
I know what you’re thinking though. “Do you know how many people, how many companies and brands, they all support the LGBT community? You should boycott them too.” However, do you know how many companies I’d be boycotting because I disagree with their policies, actions and decisions? Forget the LGBT support, lets talk music, beliefs, culture. Heck, I better move to Amish country and do it all myself.
Because that’s not the point.
The point is that those things don’t affect me. Where a company chooses to spend, or send, their money doesn’t require my approval or acceptance. I don’t have to purchase the things that I don’t like, and I don’t care how their employees/owners choose to live.
But I should have the right to feel safe in a public place.
Especially in a private facility, like a restroom.
It’s not that Lesbian/Gay/Bisexuals/Transgenders don’t make me feel safe, it’s the whole idea of allowing anyone and everyone to have access to the restroom of their choosing. The restroom that they “identify” with at that time.
Have you, the transgender who is fighting for the right to enter the choice of restroom that you self-identify with, thought about your own safety? Have you thought about the pedophiles, the liars, the criminals, who will use your “equality” to their advantage.
The safety of women, and children alike, hangs in the balance.
Target made these statements: “[W]e welcome transgender team members and guests to use the restroom or fitting room facility that corresponds with their gender identity. …Everyone deserves to feel like they belong.”
But Target, I don’t feel like I belong.
Over and over again, I’ve watched videos of men walking into Target and asking for permission to access the Women’s restroom. And with no questions, no hesitation, men, who identify as men, are allowed to walk into the women’s restroom.
How is this safe?
How am I supposed to “belong” in a place where I feel like my privacy and my safety is not a priority? And right next to all the insecurities and all the questions, I feel like I’m being discriminated against.
It’s bigger than you stomping on my beliefs. It’s bigger than you disregarding the value of family.
It’s that you’ve devalued my right to feel safe.
I live in a small town in the bayou lands. I remember when I was a kid, a family friend us about an experience she had recently at our local big box store.
Her, and her young son, visited the fitting rooms to try some clothing. As she was changing, her son exclaimed “Look mom, an eye!” As the mother looked around to see what her son was talking about, she realized there was a man in the next stall watching her through a peep hole.
Can you imagine? What if she was alone? What if it was a child? What if he was videoing or taking photos?
And this instance happened over 10 years ago when men weren’t allowed in Women’s dressing rooms or restrooms.
And I know, that’s a lot of “What ifs”.
But you could also say “What if Target respected the aspect of naturally assigned gender?” or “What if I felt safer in Target’s restroom?”. Because who is to keep an instance like this from happening again. Isn’t it now discriminating to ask “Are you really a female? Do you really identify that way?”
What are you going to tell the women who have already suffered from sexual crimes committed in a public place? “We’re sorry that happened, but we want everyone to feel like they belong, even if that means making you feel uncomfortable or putting you in a compromising position/situation.”
Target spokeswoman Molly Snyder wrote in an email that there are “single-stall/family restrooms in hundreds of our stores for guests that may be more comfortable with that option.”
So it’s okay for the majority of the population, who does not identify as LGBT, to use a separate restroom if they don’t feel safe with the new law. It’s okay for women who have their children in tow, who are afraid of the repercussions this law will have on the safety of their family in a public restroom, to use a separate restroom. (P.S. have you ever been alone in a Target restroom? Uh, no. (but you may be now) What happens if my kid needs to pee and the single-stall/family restroom is occupied?)
So it’s okay for the 891,000 Target Boycotters to not feel accepted, safe, or feel a sense of belonging. Who’s being discriminated against again?
So Target, our lasting love affair may be over.
You can keep your cutesy baby clothes, your great sales, your amazing sense of style, and all the best home deco. My hours spent scouring through the clearance, walking aimlessly down your well lit isles, and eating all the popcorn have come to an end.
Get your act together Target.
I’ll miss you, but the safety and integrity of my family is more important.
I encourage you to do your research and really consider the issues that have arisen with this new all-inclusive law. If you choose to Boycott Target, I encourage you to sign the petition with The American Family Association, and encourage your Target to rethink their decision as well.
I was Target Boycott signer number 890,644.