Valentine’s Day seems like it’s the only time that some couples are able to get out and spend time together. But why should dating your spouse just be a holiday thing? Why can’t you date your spouse on the regular? But wait, what if I can’t? What if I don’t have time? What if I don’t have the budget? Why should I even “date” my spouse, we’re already married?
We’ve got all of those answers for you right here. Dating is so much more than just courting or preparing for marriage, but it’s a part of cultivating a great relationship. Dating is simply spending time together on a more personal level, you need to do this consistently and successfully.
5 reasons why you should be dating your spouse
1. It shows you care.
By taking time out of life, which we know is crazy busy, it shows that you care. You care enough for each other to set aside a time to concentrate on the two of you. To work on the two of you. “But I do tons of things that show my significant other that I care!” But do you do them together? Do you take time to sit down with each other, without distractions, to talk and to listen? To laugh and to just enjoy each others company?
2. It helps you to grow in your relationship.
I don’t care if you’ve been married for 50 days, 50 months, or 50 years- there’s always something you can work on. Because nobody’s perfect. Taking that time out for each other not only shows that you care but in caring, we grow. What happens when you plant a seed and don’t water it? I know it’s surely not going to flourish. But that seed that you plant and you water it, you care for it, and you make sure it’s nourished- it’s gonna grow and it’s going to prosper. It’s the same with any relationships in life. It’s amazing what a little time together will do.
3. It reintroduces that love for each other.
Every person that’s ever been married has gone through a rough patch. Every person has forgotten about the little things another did for them until those things start fading away. Those precious moments with each other that created spark and all the tingles, sometimes it’s kind of dudsy. When you show each other that you care, you begin to create something new as you grow together. Growing together, allows you to reintroduce those sparks, those tingles, and maybe even gain a new respect and a new passion for each other. All of this is love. When my spouse does something special for me, it makes me proud to be his wife.
4. Making time for each other shows those around you the importance of quality time.
The youth in our community, the youth in our church, my children, my family- I want them to understand the importance of nurturing love and a pure relationship. I think about Christ and how He died for me so that I could be saved, but while I don’t have to pay with monetary means, I have to give up my old life. I have to give up all that I am, I have to seek Him, I have to depend on Him, I have to respect Him, and be encouraged and strengthened by Him. These things come from the love that I have for Him, because of what He’s done for me. I love my spouse and/because he loves and cares for me.
5. Love holds everything together.
The Bible says I could have all things, but if I don’t have love, I have nothing. A good foundation is built upon love, and then all things will follow. When the Mr. and I got married, my grandfather pulled us aside and said: “Remember what brought you together”. It’s so simple, but so genius. An attraction to each other that developed a love within each other. Neither which we should ever part from, it’s the surest foundation.
Do you date your spouse on the regular? What’s your favorite reason for dating your spouse?